The Marriage Vow

"For better or for worst"
A phrase with a profound importance, but not always thought of.
Many of us enjoyed the weddng day and the bliss of the moment - this is usually considered at the "better". None of us on that day every stop to think how would I handle the "worst". Not one of us wants to go there. The truth of the matter is that these type of days will come and even persist for a long time. Such days affect our emotional state, our financial state, our health, and no doubt our marital relationship. The "worst" may be a quarrel, layoff from one's job, memnopause, adultery, excessive drinking, gambling, obesity, erectile dysfunction, are a terminal illness. We just do not know how the "worst" will come, but it will come.The script is not written in any set format, and how we will perform on the set is anybody's guess.

The "worst" is a test of our character and love. When we signed in for marriage, we login for the "worst" and we must understand that. The question is how do we deal with it. My suggestion is that there is no simple answer. I believe that the level of  love for our partners will determine how we deal with the "worst", for me, its an individual thing. May be it's best at some quiet time together discuss with your partner the various forms of the "worst" and how each of you are likely to deal with these challenges. You may be quite surprise!

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The Bed Can Tell a Story

The marriage union is the ideal situation for beautiful and exciting of sex and the bed can tell a story of a harmonious relationship at the height of your emotions.

It is inconceivable to think of having sex with the same individual for the remainder of your life, well that depends on your health and that of your partner's. Believe it! Things are not going to be the same as it was your youth. At some point in your life the hands of the biological clock will find it hard to reach twelve o'clock if you are a man. And if are a woman lot more things will happen.

So don't fathom the thought face each sexual encounter with much more excitement than the last. What should you do?

* Don't have sex for the sake of doing it or because you feel bored.
* Set the mood by going to the movies, the driving-in is ideal. just don't go to see horror. Or you may stay at home, and watch a pay-per-view channel and snack on pop corn. Dinning is good, but don't over eat. Remember, if you waited so long you can't afford to be sluggish. Your partner may require you to be well positioned.
* What about your outfit for the bed? Men like the more diaphanous fabric.
*Try not to find fault or complain.
* Sex is not a contest or an exercise activity, yes you will exercise your bodies, but it is not about proving anything. Your job is to gauge the emotional level of your partner and response with a feeling of love.
*dim lighting set the mood.

If your do this on a regular basis, in your old age you will have pleasant memories.

Have an exciting night.

The Bible Offers Instructions for a Happy Marriage

The Bible gives us instructions for living life as married persons. The book of Timothy 1 chapter 3, verses 2 to 4 is very instructive for the husbands. " Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money" (Taken from the New International Version)

Let's take this bit by bit. Firstly "above reproach" means that husbands should perform their roles so as to be precluded from any blame or criticism. The truth is that no one is perfect, but it does not hurt for the male partner to act and do things that are acceptable.

" the husband but of one wife" If your are a loving husband in a culture of Western society, why would you want to have another women, but your wife. Adultery creates more issues and problems in your life and sets the family back. Some never recover from the inconsiderate act of such passion.

The ability of the husband to teach is an interesting feature. I believe that teaching here means the the husband should impart knowledge based on his experiences in life. Bad experiences inform us where we went wrong and teach us lessons for life.  Therefore, with in the family setting the husband should use the lessons of life to instruct and influence his relationship with his wife in a positive way.

Being temperate in ones behaviour simply means that one must be restrain oneself. Listen first and think before considering one's action. Never be to hasty. Following this recommendation leads us to adopt a self-control. self-control leads to a harmonious relations which enhances love between husband and wife. Respect now becomes the hallmark of one's marriage.

Drunkenness or addiction to drugs impairs one ability to adequately face up to the challenges of marriage life. To consume alcohol and be abusive is a to renege on one's responsibility and commitment to the marriage. Being in an inebriated state very often leads to escalating abuse. Quarrels often breakout and the beautiful colours of love begins to dye in a solvent of alcohol.

It is simple. Marriage is based on a foundation of principles that govern the marital relationship. The Bible is a great reference book for enhancing bliss in one's marriage. Read it. 

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