Age Difference and Marriage

Can a younger woman and an older man with an age difference of ten years have a happy marriage or even more interesting question to be asked, can a younger man and an older woman with the same age difference marriage lasts. Some argue that in both situations the marriage will fail. Why?

I think that it has to do with the fact that as human beings when we aged our bodies are no longer attractive and in the case of a marriage, the older partner perceives him or herself as no longer an interesting proposition. The aches and pains begin to slow down the older partner, while the younger partner feels as though he or she is the night nurse.

The other point worth discussing is sex. You see men as they age are likely to become less active in bed and could become frustrated if his hydraulics are not working. For the female as the older partner, she might complain of ware and tear.

in all the above cases, marriage is viewed as a physical attraction founded on infatuation and not love. I believe that age makes no difference, if love is the centre piece of the marriage and the vows taken are seen as the guiding principles, there should be no problem. Remember "for better or for worst." Well just in case, you are still dubious about the love thing, then do the following:

• eat healthly
• exercise regularly
• have annual medical checks
• keep the mind active
  
• make sure your financial position is secured
• be out goings
• socialize with the young and old
• dress well
• don't let your age bother you

The negative of the above will inevitably result in partnership misery. Simply do the things to keep your marriage in a state of enjoyment.

What do you think? Drop me a line.

Relationship Misery

As I stated in my previous blog, courtship teaches us lessons that we ignore and despite everything, we still cohabitate and live through the experiences of one partner bickering about the same old habits brought into the relationship by the other partner. Misery then raises it head.

Relationship misery is the consequence of many behaviours, here are a few examples:

1. Men dropping their shoes and pieces of clothing all over the house.
2. Men when urinating spray the toilet seat with particles of urine.
   
3. Incorrectly placing a roll of toilet paper with the loose end hanging to the front.
4. Women using the same old excuse to get away from sex.
5. Women spending what they do not have and running up high credit card debt.

Have you every noticed that almost immediately after sex, one partner will find something to fret about, which does not relate to the previous act of intimacy? There are many more acts of relationship misery, some can be termed misdemeanours, some are serious crime against the relationship. The more serious, the more miserable the partners.

The point is that partners differ in personalities and will at times perceive situation differently. Here's a simply remedy. When there is a complaint or you are blame for an act. if you are at fault, simply say "sorry babes". Just do not try to explain or justify your action. In the heat of the moment, partners will react.

Simple isn't it!

LOOK OUT FOR AGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PARTNERS

What makes a Good Husband

What is a good husband or a good partner? I asked myself as I listened carefully to some frustrated female friends, but more so when I hear the comments of some of my male friends or observe their stubborn behaviour.

Some women pray for good husbands. Some envy other women and wish they had good husbands. Some cry shame of the personas they have before them. Some try to make their men into a good husbands or partners. The fact is that a good husband emerges from within the man, very often after some soul searching in a morose situation or from the day to day experiences of living together with his partner.

Having gone through the experience of a failed marriage, I have learned my lesson well and now enjoy the BLISS of my present marriage. My feeling of happiness is often expressed in soliloquies when I say in these personal discourses that I am a good husband. What makes a good husband? I believe that I can answer the question for any women who is presently in an intimate relationship.

1. Foremost, a good husband loves his wife eternally.
2. A good husband takes his financial obligations of the relationship, once there is agreement, seriously and unconditionally. Remember the West Indian maxim "no money, no love."
3. A good husband spends quality time with his wife, at least once a week.
4. A good husband raises issues and problems, which are most likely to become impediments to the relationship and presses for amicable resolutions.
5. A good husband relieves his wife of the drudgery of household chores by helping. Watching television as her perspiration drips from the forehead only frustrates and deserves "NO" as a response to the partner's question when he is in an anxious mood.
6. A good husband upholds his marriage vows, wearing his ring as a symbol of his commitment and love.
7. A good husband views sex as sacred bonding and not as a stamina of passion to be exhibited. If this is the belief, the time spent will be gratifying and will of measurable significance.
8. A good husband exhibits maturity in all endeavours, as well as emotional intelligence.
9. A good husband gives his wife her space.
10. A good husband knells with his wife in God's presence.
11. A good husband leaves the house when he is angry to avoid a cantankerous discourse, but returns to deal with the situation in a controlled manner.
12. A good husband listens well and knows when to speak and what should be said.

Yes it is possible get a good husband and they still exist, but it takes time and many mistakes in a situation of cohabitation or marriage. Women must have some patience. The mistake often is made in courtship,when messages are sent, but those messages are ignored only to find oneself in an intimate relation, then marriage and some women never deal with the issue. Men are not dough.