The Bed Can Tell a Story

The marriage union is the ideal situation for beautiful and exciting of sex and the bed can tell a story of a harmonious relationship at the height of your emotions.

It is inconceivable to think of having sex with the same individual for the remainder of your life, well that depends on your health and that of your partner's. Believe it! Things are not going to be the same as it was your youth. At some point in your life the hands of the biological clock will find it hard to reach twelve o'clock if you are a man. And if are a woman lot more things will happen.

So don't fathom the thought face each sexual encounter with much more excitement than the last. What should you do?

* Don't have sex for the sake of doing it or because you feel bored.
* Set the mood by going to the movies, the driving-in is ideal. just don't go to see horror. Or you may stay at home, and watch a pay-per-view channel and snack on pop corn. Dinning is good, but don't over eat. Remember, if you waited so long you can't afford to be sluggish. Your partner may require you to be well positioned.
* What about your outfit for the bed? Men like the more diaphanous fabric.
*Try not to find fault or complain.
* Sex is not a contest or an exercise activity, yes you will exercise your bodies, but it is not about proving anything. Your job is to gauge the emotional level of your partner and response with a feeling of love.
*dim lighting set the mood.

If your do this on a regular basis, in your old age you will have pleasant memories.

Have an exciting night.

The Bible Offers Instructions for a Happy Marriage

The Bible gives us instructions for living life as married persons. The book of Timothy 1 chapter 3, verses 2 to 4 is very instructive for the husbands. " Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money" (Taken from the New International Version)

Let's take this bit by bit. Firstly "above reproach" means that husbands should perform their roles so as to be precluded from any blame or criticism. The truth is that no one is perfect, but it does not hurt for the male partner to act and do things that are acceptable.

" the husband but of one wife" If your are a loving husband in a culture of Western society, why would you want to have another women, but your wife. Adultery creates more issues and problems in your life and sets the family back. Some never recover from the inconsiderate act of such passion.

The ability of the husband to teach is an interesting feature. I believe that teaching here means the the husband should impart knowledge based on his experiences in life. Bad experiences inform us where we went wrong and teach us lessons for life.  Therefore, with in the family setting the husband should use the lessons of life to instruct and influence his relationship with his wife in a positive way.

Being temperate in ones behaviour simply means that one must be restrain oneself. Listen first and think before considering one's action. Never be to hasty. Following this recommendation leads us to adopt a self-control. self-control leads to a harmonious relations which enhances love between husband and wife. Respect now becomes the hallmark of one's marriage.

Drunkenness or addiction to drugs impairs one ability to adequately face up to the challenges of marriage life. To consume alcohol and be abusive is a to renege on one's responsibility and commitment to the marriage. Being in an inebriated state very often leads to escalating abuse. Quarrels often breakout and the beautiful colours of love begins to dye in a solvent of alcohol.

It is simple. Marriage is based on a foundation of principles that govern the marital relationship. The Bible is a great reference book for enhancing bliss in one's marriage. Read it. 

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Real Men and Marriage

On the 13 October, I became unemployed. The excuse given to me by my director was that the depressed economy of Barbados had influenced a restructuring process in the company. Simple explanation, but I was unemployed for the first time in my thirty-eight years of working life.

I drove to my wife's office and informed her of the most recent development in my life; though shocked her response was in simple words " don't worry, the bills will be paid"

The weeks rolled on as I accepted dole, at times with shame as I joined the unemployment line to hear my number and signed the blue paper to indicate that during my last visit, I did not earned any income and I had made every attempt to find a job. Receiving the mailed cheques was a consolation in the scheme of things, but the sum was not enough for me to make the financial contribution to my home, as a real man should.Real men support and contribute significantly the the upkeep of the family, so I thought. To be at home, with your wife working and being the bread winner is not what a real man should allow. It could be a rather depressing situation for a husband

The weeks passed on, the bills were paid and are being paid. Melancholy has not affected our marriage. I have learned how to hang out bed linen, the sheets are interesting.  There is a technique- First find the corner of the sheet and pin it to the line, then locate the matching corner, fold and pin together. The rest is easy. I realized when ironing what heat levels are needed for various fabrics. Thats knowledge allowed me to prepare my wife's uniforms with confidence. One wash day, I saw my neighbour watching curiously as I pinned the clothes on the line. In my mind I answered her, "What, is there anything effeminate about a man performing household task?".  For me, the real meaning of marriage is experienced when the underlying clauses of the marriage vows are practised - " for better or worst, in sickness or health". When situations in the marriage appear to be on the downside, it is then that the marital relationship is tested.

My wife continues to demonstrate that our marriage is built on true love and that the true test of marriage begins when the chips are down. She is in phase with our vows. I now understand that there is no room in marriage for the machismo, but a real man is not who accepts the challenges in his marital relationship and overcome.