What makes a Good Husband

What is a good husband or a good partner? I asked myself as I listened carefully to some frustrated female friends, but more so when I hear the comments of some of my male friends or observe their stubborn behaviour.

Some women pray for good husbands. Some envy other women and wish they had good husbands. Some cry shame of the personas they have before them. Some try to make their men into a good husbands or partners. The fact is that a good husband emerges from within the man, very often after some soul searching in a morose situation or from the day to day experiences of living together with his partner.

Having gone through the experience of a failed marriage, I have learned my lesson well and now enjoy the BLISS of my present marriage. My feeling of happiness is often expressed in soliloquies when I say in these personal discourses that I am a good husband. What makes a good husband? I believe that I can answer the question for any women who is presently in an intimate relationship.

1. Foremost, a good husband loves his wife eternally.
2. A good husband takes his financial obligations of the relationship, once there is agreement, seriously and unconditionally. Remember the West Indian maxim "no money, no love."
3. A good husband spends quality time with his wife, at least once a week.
4. A good husband raises issues and problems, which are most likely to become impediments to the relationship and presses for amicable resolutions.
5. A good husband relieves his wife of the drudgery of household chores by helping. Watching television as her perspiration drips from the forehead only frustrates and deserves "NO" as a response to the partner's question when he is in an anxious mood.
6. A good husband upholds his marriage vows, wearing his ring as a symbol of his commitment and love.
7. A good husband views sex as sacred bonding and not as a stamina of passion to be exhibited. If this is the belief, the time spent will be gratifying and will of measurable significance.
8. A good husband exhibits maturity in all endeavours, as well as emotional intelligence.
9. A good husband gives his wife her space.
10. A good husband knells with his wife in God's presence.
11. A good husband leaves the house when he is angry to avoid a cantankerous discourse, but returns to deal with the situation in a controlled manner.
12. A good husband listens well and knows when to speak and what should be said.

Yes it is possible get a good husband and they still exist, but it takes time and many mistakes in a situation of cohabitation or marriage. Women must have some patience. The mistake often is made in courtship,when messages are sent, but those messages are ignored only to find oneself in an intimate relation, then marriage and some women never deal with the issue. Men are not dough.