To be sexually unfaithful is probably the only reasonable action for a man or a woman, when a marriage is in shambles. It is not. Your are cheating on your partner and no excuse can explain your action. The fact is that the animal instinct in you have become more eminent than rational thinking and you are prone to becomes sexually attracted to another person.
The process of cheating is as follows:
- Flirting
- Fantasizing
- Marking the approach
- Arranging a date
- Committing adultery
- Formulating an excuse
Flirting is showing a third party outside the marital relationship a casual interest, though amorously, the intent at this stage is superficial. If your flirtatious behaviour continues fantasizing grips you and you begin to think of the person's sexual attributes. To get closer to the third person you take the initiative and make the approach ever growing deeper in infatuation and building enough confidence to arrange the date. This date sets the atmosphere for the dangerous act of committing adultery. The dice is cast and you begin to formulate the most reasonable excuse to explain your action should you be caught. In most cases you are suspected and then caught. Now a decision has to be made by the innocent partner, that is to forgive or end the relationship.
Can the marriage last, given the deceitful action of the offending partner? Yes it can, but remember your partner will suffer the pain for a long time. You must admit that your action was inconsiderate and ask to be forgiven, but understand that the memories of your infidelity will not be erased by the innocent because you have admitted your fault. There will be flashbacks and trauma. Being the offending partner you must be patient.
How to avoid cheating
- To avoid the act of adultery, simply do not flirt with your work colleague, friend or stranger or encourage it.
- Always mention some positive aspect of your marriage or partner in conversations at work or in any social setting
- Do not discuss issues of your marriage with the opposite sex whether at work or in a social setting.
- Avoid going to places alone in which the atmosphere provides a romanic setting.
Say something nice about your wife or husband today.
