I think that it has to do with the fact that as human beings when we aged our bodies are no longer attractive and in the case of a marriage, the older partner perceives him or herself as no longer an interesting proposition. The aches and pains begin to slow down the older partner, while the younger partner feels as though he or she is the night nurse. Hormonal changes also impacts quite heavily as women go through menopause and men andropause.
The other point worth discussing is sex. You see men as they age are likely to become less active in bed and could become frustrated if his hydraulics are not working. For the female as the older partner, she might complain of ware and tear. There is also the difference in individual interests which may also put a strain on the relationship. The younger person may still desire to be active and outgoing while the older person may be quite willing to relax at home.
In all the above cases, marriage is viewed as a physical attraction founded on infatuation and not love. I believe that age makes no difference, if love is the centre piece of the marriage and the vows taken are seen as the guiding principles, there should be no problem. Remember "for better or for worst." Well just in case, you are still dubious about the love thing, then do the following:
- eat healthly
- exercise regularly
- have annual medical checks
- keep the mind active
- make sure your financial position is secured
- be out goings
- socialize with the young and old
- dress well
- don't let your age bother you. Understand and prepare for 'old age' both mentally and physically
- recognise what you can change and what you cannot change
- accept each other
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